Every time that I hear somebody say that they want to meet someone who will just accept them as they are I feel a buzzing sensation in the back of my head (we’ll name it after an arachnid later). I can’t help but feel that this statement is wrong somehow. Not being the dating, or even the social, type I cannot claim expertise on this subject but it seems to me that a relationship is something that needs to be worked for, on, and with. It isn’t something that just pops out of nowhere and makes life instantly better, curing all worries to come. I don’t see why some people in their twenties can be so complacent in their lives. Don’t get me wrong, life is good and all but I hope that it gets alot better down the road. I don’t want to settle down with someone who is all-accepting of who I am and doesn’t expect me to change one bit. I want to meet a woman who pushes me to be who I want to be, who I need to be, and who God chooses me to be. And I should do the same for her. A relationship should be a back and forth work in progress whether it be with another person or with God. We should never accept anything the way it is if it is not right. We need to strive for better lives.
I apologize for two posts in a row on similar subjects but I am just so sick of reading all the whining that’s going on on Facebook about being single. Maybe there’s a reason for that! Maybe you need to sort out some things in your life before you can be ready to share it with someone else. Maybe you need to move out of your parents house. Maybe you need a job that can support more than your video game habit. Maybe you’re just not prepared to be the spiritual anchor/support of a household. Or maybe if you just didn’t spend so much time on Facebook you would meet someone new. Facebook is fine for when you are bored but if you’re bored all the time then maybe you should be doing something with your life.
Of course everything that I know only works in theory … much like my conversation skills.
There’s also a problem with people believing that who they are is in any way static and uniform across all social settings. People have multiple personalities and identities depending on who they are with and in what context; deferring to group rule happens, but people adopt different identities when doing so.
What they’re essentially saying is, “I think I’m pretty awesome, and others should too”, whereas what they should be thinking is “I think I’m pretty awesome, but do other think that too?”